Most guys know right from the conversation that she is the one. You may assume that he deletedhis profile because he found someone else, while it might be a different case. He wanted to know if he should express his feelings to her. I was as shocked as you are right now because I thought he deleted his profile because of me.
The best thing you can do is take that time to heal, pick yourself back up, and then get back out there! You’ll find that person who you are compatible with, and this guy will pursue you until the cows come home. He might ghost because he doesn’t want to face the music and come clean that you’re not right for him (and vice versa). But I don’t believe everyone on Tinder is looking to hop from one meaningless hookup to the next. I believe some people (including myself) are open to real connections. I’ve always known that not everyone believes this, but to be reminded of that by a guy with whom I thought I could have one of those “real connections” made the realization sort of…
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“HOLD THE PHONE”, I thought, while holding my phone. “Well I sort of got the impression you weren’t so keen any more…” I proffered, hoping for an adamant denial of my suggestion. I apologised profusely, he didn’t reply and I thought that was the end of my relationship with Dev. There was swearing, there was anger – Dev was not happy. He then explained that he wasn’t entirely sure, suggesting that because I’d gone away he thought he’d leave it to me, and he’d also presumed I wasn’t that interested as I apparently had kept forgetting what we’d discussed. But perhaps the most brutal new dating “trend” with which we have to contend is ghosting.
Curious dating landscape in which we live, John and I then messaged for a few days but never met up. I got a similar lack of response from three other guys. It’s almost as if they don’t want to confront the fact that they unceremoniously treated me with a total lack of human decency and respect. But Ben then didn’t reply to my message six days before our proposed date.
I matched with him one night on Tinder, and we chatted briefly on the app before moving to texting, then to a date at a Spanish restaurant. I’m a hopeless romantic, so nice to see some people still out there are too. The years and tears I could’ve saved myself if I had only grown a pair and asked, “What are we doing?” sooner in past relationships is… Rather than continuing to swipe on your cab ride home from his place to comfort yourself and feel protected by all of the options you have out there, put the phone down and have the talk with him.
I’m sure there are exceptions, I just found that if you’re not looking for a hookup, don’t put yourself in a pool of people who are. As a woman, even though I was very clear I was looking for something serious, I still had lots of guys try to date me anyway without the same intention. It’s better to remove yourself from the ‘crowd’ that isn’t on the same page.
The last guy who told me this on Tinder I caught red-handed as I’d seen him on the app right before we texted. I told him I saw him on the app after he said he deleted it. His next response was all about distracting me from the question I’d asked. It’s possible that you’re asking yourself, “Why did he delete his dating profile? ” because of one of the reasons listed above.
But humans avoid conflict — real or imagined — whenever possible. If he imagines that being honest and open with you will cause conflict, you better bet he’ll opt for the ghosting option. You can have passion if you also get to know each other and having things in common. You aren’t left with nothing to say to one another outside of the bedroom. You either fit with another person, or you don’t.
If I liked a woman, and she deleted her dating apps, I would delete my own. That said, there are plenty of guys it’s easy to be infatuated with and even get into relationships with who are always vaguely on the spectrum of shadiness. If you are worried about deleting apps because you suspect he hasn’t deleted his, think twice about who you are dating.
Unmatching on dating sites is more common than you may think. I have experienced plenty of men who have unmatched me on various dating apps and so have many of my girlfriends. We were curious as to what this means and why men unmatch. As diligent researchers, we all started to dig into this a little deeper.
And have scored plenty of dates, 0 of which were hookups. Next time you want to keep a conversation going, don’t ask something banal like “how’s your day?”. Send them a photo of something you saw with “this reminded me of that [thing we saw on our date]” or something else that conjures an emotion rather than just one more boring message they have to reply. Adam, I agree with everything but what about the guy who chooses fear over love.
The thing is, we haven’t really discussed the status of our relationship yet. I want to tell him that I don’t want to see anyone else and that it’s time to delete our profiles, but I don’t know how to tell him how I feel. In my experience the vast majority of men I ever talked to on Tinder in particular were not interested in anything more than a hookup.
He would swipe until he matched and got a number or met a girl. He would then delete the app so I wouldn’t find out. This would allow him to have a steady girlfriend and a side piece he could go slow with.